Balanced Self Determinism

Comparison of behaviours chart

 

Other Determined Behaviour: When your behaviour is determined by the needs of others

Self Determined Behaviour: When your behaviour is determined by your needs while respecting the needs of others.

Selfish Determined Behaviour: When your behaviour is determined by your needs alone

 

Other Determined Behaviour

(Effects on self)

Balanced Self Determined Behaviour

(Effects on self)

Selfish Determined Behaviour

(Effects on self)

You become self-denying

Is self enhancing

Is self enhancing at the expense of others

You become inhibited, passive

You are expressive and active

You are expressive and aggressive

You do not achieve your goals

You may achieve your desired goals

You achieve you goals by hurting others

You allow others to choose for you

You choose for yourself

You choose for others

You become hurt and anxious

You feel good about yourself

You depreciate others

(Effects on others)

(Effects on others)

(Effects on others)

Others can become guilty or angry

Enhances others

Denys others selves

Depreciates others

Expressive

Others become hurt, defensive, humiliated

Achieves goals at your expense

They may achieve desired goals

They do not achieve desired goals

 

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